The Show Notes
Danielle, tell us a bit about where you come from and give us your story…
- I am a mother of six and an ex midwife
- I used to work in domestic violence
- I suffered quite a lot of trauma as a child
- I hate bullying and I am always cheering for the underdog.
- I hate the word no so I will always find a way to achieve the impossible
- I’ve spent some of my adult life completely broke, which is difficult with 6 kids.
- I've always managed to push through with a positive mindset.
- I set up an online business which gave me some extra income
- At age 40 I began to experience flashbacks to my sexual abuse trauma and realised I had to face my past.
- Since then I have been able to help many others deal with their trauma.
- I decided to write a book and put my story into words. I had no idea how to start and didn't have much time; I was petrified of the criticism and consequences. It took me 8 moths to write 72000 words.
- It replaced oprah winfrey as number 1 in the memoirs bestsellers.
- I get really positive feedback about how my book has changed lives.
Q: Can You identify the lowest points in your life and tell us how you overcame this? What did you learn?
- When I went to work in domestic violence it unlocked a lot of my trauma
- I was very shameful and petrified of not being believed.
- I had two choices: roll over and die or get up and dust myself off, accept that I was the master of my destiny and be a good mum for my kids.
- I think this choice is really important no matter what we face
- My difficult time was character building because I realised where my strength lie.
Q: What is the biggest epiphany you have had?Q: Along that roller coaster journey, what was your worst moment in life and what did you do to overcome it?….
- It was deciding to decide to write my book. I had only written 500 words and knew the scale of my undertaking, but once the floodgates were open the words fell out
- I was terrified of being a bad writer but I received really positive feedback
- My bravery has empowered other people, particularly abuse survivors. My example has helped people and led me on an amazing new path.This was an epiphany moment in my life
- It lead me on an unforeseen new path and let me give people to even more help.
Q: What causes someone to have a naturally negative or [positive mindset in life?
- I think it's a conscious choice. Is your glass half full or half empty?
- Being surrounded by negative people has a huge impact on how I feel, so now I'm very careful about how and with whom I spend my time
- Sometimes it is a learned behaviour. It's important to notice negative patterns and turn those emotions around.
- Some people lack resilience. People who overcome hardship in early life tend to be more resilient. One has to learn resilience through adversity.
- We have no control of what's going on around us and we are a work in progress.
Q: What would you say are the main keys to maintaining a positive mindset through hardship?
- Gratitude is really important. My gratitude for life and the stuff around me plays a huge role
- It's sometimes the little things we need to be grateful for that will lead to positivity
- The people around you
- Self belief is really important
- ASk not why me? but why not me? What can I learn and what can I take from it?
- I want to bounce forward so that I'm not just reliving my life but moving forward towards my goals.
Q: If somebody is suffering from a negative mindset, what is the knock on effect and why does negativity stop us from achieving our full potential?
- I think its because it affects our self belief.
- It can be very difficult when you have a pattern of learned behaviour to overcome that.
- Until people are ready to make a change it is very difficult to make progress
- Not everybody is ready to make a change.
- Negativity has a strange power of becoming a pattern very quickly
- It’s easy to go down a path where you encounter health and financial problems which becomes a reinforcing loop.
- It takes a lot of personal development to see that negativity doesn’t need to hold you back.
Q: What are the top three things that you would encourage our listeners to do to start changing from a negative mindset to a positive mindset and start creating tremendous change in their lives?
- Make a decision to change your mindset. Decide to decide to decide that today is the day that we are going to go on a new journey. Conscious mindset.
- Learn to shut down negative thoughts. You can form new habits in 90 days and will start to see things more positively
- Look at who you spend time with. We are basically the five people we spend most of our tie with so choose your friends wisely.
The Quickfire Round
Q: What is the best personal development advice you ever got, and from whom?
- Trust my intuition – one of my best friends
Q: Can you give us a personal habit or personality trait that you think most contributes to your success?
- My ability to not just bounce back but bounce forward, and get off my butt and do stuff!
Q: What does success mean to you?
- Being the best version of myself, showing up every day as me, and spending time with the people who are important to me
Q: Where can our listeners find out more about you and what you do?