The Show Notes
What's your story Diane?
- I started as a young mum, newly divorced with a baby to raise and I had a lot of stress in my life. I worked a high stress job, I wasn't taking care of myself, I had no tool but I still had to be in a life that required so much of me to a point where it was affecting my health
- The doctor told me if you don't settle down, you're going to have a stroke because there is too much stress in your life so I'd seen health problems in my family, lost a sister so it gave me an awareness that I really needed to take charge of my life
- This is when it started when I started researching and educating myself to stay healthy and then I started making shifts so I could get educated in what I needed
- I became a life coach. I became a health coach. I became a behaviour modification coach. I also have a masters in spiritual psychology
- All this was on my journey to help myself. Once I helped myself other people would see the results in how I was showing up at work less stressed and had figured out what to do with my life. I just started sharing the information and that's how today I became a whole living consultant
- I speak, I do workshops as well as personal development and health-based courses.
Q: Have you had to identify your worst or lowest moment? What did you do to overcome it and what was the biggest lesson?
- The biggest thing to overcome was my fear of doing things different, my fear that I had to make changes in my life that would support me and navigating through that fear and getting more courage to create a life that supported me and my family.
- I was working as a consultant and I actually created my own business because I could control a little bit more of my schedule and what I needed to do in my life at the time and balance being a mum, my children and the career I had at the time.
Q: What was the biggest or most exciting epiphany that you've ever had in your life and inspired your philosophy of personal development? What impact did that have for you?
- It's the awareness that healing myself from the inside out has helped me evolve more into a person who was able to be more authentic or real or more personable with other people but I didn't realise at the time that everything started with me. The more I grew from a personal development standpoint, a self-realisation standpoint, the more awareness I've got in my life. It's just enabled me to show up more empowered.
Q: Why is it dangerous to be comfortable and how does that limit our personal growth?
- It limits our personal growth because nothing ever changes and if you never do anything different in your life, it's detrimental e.g. if you've been going to the same job 30 years, down the same road, you have worked for the same company – what if that shifted, what if that company closed and they lay you off then it's more detrimental to you as someone who hasn't experienced or explored anything outside of what you're used to
- It's more painful to be in a comfort zone but you don't learn when you stay in your comfort zone. Your brain doesn't evolve, you don't evolve, you stay the same.
Q: What are the symptoms of being in your comfort zone?
- If you don't have a lot of friends, most of your friends are your relatives.
- If you haven't gone anywhere but to work and to church for the past 30 years.
- If you only surround yourself with the people you know and the people that you are very comfortable with and a lot of times that's close family, you only go to gatherings that your family go to.
- So, nothing's changed and from a physical standpoint you may have the same clothes, same haircut, the same attitude you've had all year because without stepping out a little bit and without opening yourself up, nothing will change.
Q: How can they build that confidence to actually take a step forward and step outside of it?
- You have a feeling of being so uncomfortable inside that you just couldn't stand it so that discomfort, that feeling inside your gut that there's something more, something is missing, some kind of gap or void and people literally experienced this and I know I have
- When that discomfort becomes more painful, it brings more insight than you staying comfortable. It's such a powerful thing and a lot of people will feel they may not do anything about it. It's easier to push it back down than to explain it away
- My experience is that if you push that experience down, maybe when the kids grow up, when life changes, when you have some space and then it comes back up again – it's the same discomfort which shows up off and on our whole lives. Nobody says you have to do anything about it but you have that feeling, and exploring what that feeling is about, tapping in to that feeling and really trying to understand what's going on inside. Once you understand what's going on inside it's trying to figure out OK what is it I want to create in my life that I don't have in my life now
- It's reading books, it's going to workshops, it's reading and it's exploring ways to help this discomfort turn into something that you can manifest in your own life.
- For me that discomfort was needing to leave my community where I had no family or friends and moving to another state with my young children when I was so unhappy in the life that I had at the time but I needed to step out. There were challenges and I was willing to do whatever I had to do to get past those challenges because the idea of staying in that comfort zone was just really making me unhappy.
Q: How do we prepare and adapt our minds for change so that we can embrace it rather than hide away from it?
- Change is practice and it's one step at a time – one small step
- What's one thing you can do different tomorrow? What's one little thing?
- Something that will allow you to take one little step
- It takes practice because the bravery and the courage doesn't come right away
- You upset your whole life when you change things sometimes so it's about practice, it's about slowly practicing, – being that person that you want to be outside of your comfort zone
- It's going to require change and that change is going to change your world – that's part of that discomfort
- In your head if you start thinking about what you want and then start painting that visual picture but it's not about your expansion, it's about what it will do for everybody else. That's how people stay safe in their comfort zone because this is a lot if I do these things differently.
Q: I guess it's about living a more positive life?
- Be true to yourself, being more authentic in what you want
- We tend to live for other people, this is not a bad thing, it's just how things are but we leave ourselves out so when we start thinking about what you want, it can become very uncomfortable because if I change myself then I'm not going to be able to do all the things but I do for my family for example but there are ways that you can lovingly and confidently change
- What can you do and what can your family do that can create space for you to explore what you need in terms of stepping out of your comfort zone or your rut because if you're stuck in a rut you're not really showing up authentically
- Maybe you’ve experienced a lot of anger and a lot of resentment and you really don’t know where they are coming from.
Q: What are your tips for people who want to find different ways that they can physically step out of their comfort zone in a way that’s going to accelerate them forward towards achieving a life that’s more fulfilling?
- Be honest, be true with your feelings
- Explore the gap between where you are in your life and where you would want to be if you could create a life truly based upon on what you wanted
- Accept and acknowledge that there's going to be change in your life and its going to be changing the people around you
- What I advocate is, it doesn't have to be negative change – with practice moving one step at a time it can be an evolution of something really great and grand and think about how happy you will be when you're living a life that you truly love.
Q: What would you say are the top 3 things that you would encourage our listeners to do right now, today, as soon as they start listening to this podcast to start breaking out of their comfort zones and start making amazing changes in their life based on what you’ve shared with us today?
- Sit and process what we've talked about, pick up a pen and start writing what you want, what is that discomfort in you all about. It's about being honest about it and writing it down
- Exploring – if I could create the life I want, what would that life look like
- How would I manifest that life, what would that look like? Who would I talk to? Where would I be? Where would I work? Where would I live?
- It could be a big big change in your life but one step at a time
- It's a process, it's a practice.
The Quickfire Round
Q: What is the best self-development advice you have ever received from somebody else and who was that person?
- The best self-development advice I got was when I was very young, it was a teacher and she said that you don't have to believe every thought that comes in your head and that really freaked me out! It freaked me out because at the time I was in my head 90% of the time but what it did for me, it allowed me to become an observer of what I'm thinking, not believe myself especially the thoughts like ‘I'm not that great, I can't do this’ We really talk ourselves out of it but it allowed me to get more courage, to get more inner courage and to be brave about my life. Step out and do all those things that we really want to do without worrying about what other people think. That was a process but that moment opened me up to the point where it just changed my life.
Q: Can you give us a personal habit or personality trait that you think most contributes to your success?
- My compassion
- My empathy for people and animals and my ability to help people bring out or navigate through fear and through things that are keeping them stuck in their lives
Q: What does success mean to you?
- Success to me means that I have balance between my personal and professional life
- The lines are really getting blurred as to having two different kinds of lives – I've managed to bring a lot of my personal and professional life together. I love to do this on my own terms.
- This has been my work for many years is to create a life that I truly loved and also being of service to others, helping people and just finding and bringing so much joy from that to myself. That's a gift but also earning a living from what I do.
- My biggest gift what I do and success is happiness and joy in how I help others.
Q: Where can people go to find out a bit more about you and your work?
- Find Diane on her website:http://www.dianerandalleconsult.com
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